.Wednesday, February 14, 2007 ' 9:30 PM
"Have you met the perfect couple? The two soul mates whose love never dies? The two lovers whose relationship is never threatened. The husband and wife who trust each other completely. If you haven't met the perfect couple, let me introduce you. They stand atop a layer of butter cream frosting. The secret of their success? Well, for starters, they don't have to look at each other."
-Mary Alice, desperate housewives
What if there's not perfect couple? No perfect guy meant for you? Scary isn't it? or perhaps scary only for me.
When I was younger I always thought about my perfect dream wedding, of course everything had to be perfect, just like what I saw in the movies. I never really thought about the groom. It's like it's a package deal, I get the perfect wedding and the guy? He is like a barbie doll I cary around and I'll put him infront of the altar when the ceremony begins. But I'm much clever now I guess. When people ask me about my dream wedding I say: Just simple, the most important thing is finding the right groom first.
It is first now I realize that the groom comes before the "wedding planning part" of course who is silly enough to think that you'll have a great wedding you'll always remember when you dont even know who will be standing beside you? ME, or atleast the younger me. As I said I am wiser now. And when you get wiser you come up with more problems, ironic isn't it the time you find the cure a new problem pop-up the same time. The new problem is, how do you know if you already found the right one to get married with? Is it just like falling inlove, you know when it is there because you can feel it without knowing or being able to explain how it is? Well if it is then what if the guy doesnt think you are the right one for him? That is why I am asking what if there is no guy meant for me? What if there is no guy meant for everyone?
Flashbacks again, when I was younger I used to believe in soulmates. the thing called destiny. Now I don't know if I still believe in it, not after hearing about alot of people getting divorced. Whats up with that? It's like marriage no longer has a value. Who the hell invented annulment?
I know that a marriage is a huge step, it bears huge responsibility, but with that annulment thingy, it's like now its much easier to get married. "Oh honey lets get married, there's always an annulment if we find out it's not how we expected it" Bull!!
I know for sure I DON'T want to get an annulment when I get married. Tell me is there any paper you can sign that says it is not allowed to get an annulment after getting married?
I know there is no such thing as perfect, so there is no such thing as perfect couple. But hey people, you are the ones who decided to get married of course you wouldn't know how it will be, nobody knows! Nobody knows about tomorrow, unluess you have a cristal ball at home and can read what is happening but lets face reality now, that is your decision so stick to it! If the marriage is having a problem then make it work! If you were not sure about each other then you shouldnt get married in the first place. Dont say you fell out of love because the only reason why you fell out of love is you two (who ever you are) are not effective enough to make your relationship work, to make your love for each other stronger.
I wont say that I'm an expert about love, don't listen to me if what Im saying sounds bull for you, I am just saying what I feel. I know one thing, that if ever I get married (I wish to God it will happen someday) I will do my best to make the marriage work. I will work hard from day one and until yeah as they say infront of the priest till death do us part. That line: till death do us part is such an important line, imagine saying that infront of lods of people and specially God! Promising infront of Him, thats a huge thing to do! I really don't want to break that promise if ever I get married, especially because of God.
So now I know there is no perfect couple but if you are willing to do your best you can make a marriage work. Of course not only you but both of you. It takes two to tango! Now the only problem is, what if there's no Mr. right for me? I guess I'll find out someday, but how do I find out?? Ahhh! too many questions in my head!! I just hope.. He is the one =) Lets see, who has a cristal ball out there????
BTW, don't think I'm acting like this because it is valentines day, no no no!! I saw Deperate Housewives and the thing that Mary Alice said in the end of the episode got my attention, thats when questions starts to pop-up my mind.
The only non-question that pop-uped my mind after watching that episode is that: When I get married the groom and the bride on the top of the cake should face each other and hold each others hands .......